Conflict occurs when two ideas or desires or perspectives don’t match up, and our natural response is to formulate a “story” about what’s occurring to help us feel safe. Unfortunately these stories can be very limited in perspective and even unhealthy. [Read more…]
Tip #3 for Resolving Quarantine Conflict
94% of the time the way a discussion starts determines the way it will end.” -John Gottman
All’s well that begins well with the Speaker-Listener Technique. Today we’ll elaborate on three Pointers for the Speaker’s Startup: [Read more…]
Tip #2 for Resolving Quarantine Conflict
When conflict occurs, its important to have some good communication tools to resolve the issue rather than react to the person who sees the issue different.
We‘ll teach you the basics of a tool called “Speaker Listener Technique.” There are two hats to wear, so to speak, with this: a Speaker Hat and a Listener Hat. We’ll unpack a few simple rules for each in this tip: [Read more…]
Communication Workshop for Couples
The Right Tool and a little Practice can make all the difference between Conflict and Communication Harmony. Bring a partner and an issue to defuse or develop for this transformational 90 minute interactive workshop. We’ll put some flesh on the bones of the “Speaker Listener Technique.” Not only will you learn great skills and a tool called “Hands-On Communication” but you’ll put it to practical use with your partner. Cost per pairing is $20 ($120 value) that includes Notes, Hands-On diagrams, and access to the Video Recording of the Workshop! Sign Up Now and be equppied by a couple who’ve seen their share of conflict and harmony over 30 years of marriage and raising two children! Upon registering, we’ll send you the Zoom link!
Date: Tuesday, April 28
Time: 7:00 PM – 8:30 PM PDT
Where: Online via Zoom
Cost: $20 per couple
REQUESTS – Get What You Need! (Day 17)
Back in 1969, The Rolling Stones’ song lyrics reflected upon the end of the long overdue party that was the 1960s. “The first three verses address the major topics of the 1960s: love, politics, and drugs. Each verse captures the essence of the initial optimism and eventual disillusion of idealistic wants, followed by the resigned pragmatism of getting one’s needs met.” (Richard Unterberger) If the 60’s fashion return of 2014 was an indication, I’d say the same idealism of love, politics and drugs has been resurrected in our culture, for better or for worse. And these lyrics still ring true in our generation, “You Can’t Always Get What You Want,” but with powerful requests as Speech Acts, you can “Get What You Need” from others. Here’s how! [Read more…]